We used to call these NVC Continuing Skills Practice Classes — but now, “Compassion Cafe”! (Much more fun, yes?) Here you can bring your real-life situations in and have them dissected a la NVC; get deeper into theory and application. We’ve been meeting now, twice monthly, for well over four years, and every meeting has been a delight to me.
Compassionate Communication is a beautiful, beautiful thing ~ we leave our first class or workshop sparkling with hope, excitement and joyous celebration that we have finally found a way to make it all good!! Life can make sense!! People can just get along!!
And then Real Life comes along and pushes your button, and you fall right back into the same old reactive patterns you’ve had all your life. Or, someone else’s button gets pushed, and you can’t figure out what to do to get the model to work, to salvage the connection, to make peace, to find understanding. Compassionate Communication is very simple, really — but it is definitely NOT EASY! To change deep, unconscious, pain-born patterns that are not only personal, but perpetuated by our society, is really, really hard. Part of the problem is that although it looks just like English, CC is learning a completely new application of our language.
And that is why, all around the world, people who are trying to change to this kind of consciousness and way of living and communicating, get together to practice. For both the practice (sadhana), and for the like-minded fellowship (sangha) that are such essential supports, we need to practice these new skills with each other. Like going to church, we aren’t necessarily hearing anything totally new, but we are being reminded, practicing, and connecting with others who share our values and bring us hope.
To support this need, I am offering Compassion Cafe, twice a month on Monday evenings, from 7:00 to 9:00 pm. These will continue on the first and third Mondays of every month. Reminders and related info are sent out on our Yahoo group list, which you can sign up for at NVC Corvallis Oregon . (Click on that to be sent to the sign-up page.) Please contact me to register, and please RSVP at least 24 hours ahead, to let me know you are coming. There will be Tea. You can bring snacks, if you like.
WHEN: 1st and 3rd Mondays, every month
WHERE: My home office: 2255 NW 25th St, Corvallis
HOW MUCH: Suggested Donation is $10; more or less, as you are able and happy about.
I am also very interested in reaching out to the smaller communities in the Valley. If you know of a welcoming place, and/or have a group you’d like a class to be held for, please let me know — I’m ready to hit the road!